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Kea Taylor Answers Your Questions!
posted Thursday, September 02, 2010

 

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From “Prof”. Harvey

Ms. Taylor -

Thank you so much for your inspirational article!  Black people do get married indeed.  I am actually getting married a second time to my college sweetheart after 25 years of being apart and I am so excited! I agree that you have to have hope and a positive attitude that God will bring you the person that you are supposed to be with.  And sometimes that takes a LOT of time! LOL

My advice to other woman is this…while you are waiting for God to bring you that right person….take that time to get yourself together so that you will be ready for him/her!

Take care,

Ursula L Harvey


Ms. Harvey,

I agree.  One of the consistent qualities of the happily married brides in the book is that they were all busy getting themselves together when their husbands were inspired to pop the question.

Thanks for writing!  Hope you enjoy the book!

Kea

From “Prof”. Jefferson

Kea,

I enjoyed reading your Lecture. It has been a topic that my friends and I talk about from time to time. I am single and I have never been married. I do have two children and I decided to walk away from their dad. The story is too long to get into but needless to say, it has been the best decision.

I am a hopeless romantic but I know that just because I am asked doesn’t mean I have to say yes and I have been asked a few times. The reality of those situations were they wanted me close but weren’t ready to commit to being a husband. I guess they wanted me around when they got ready to settle down so I wouldn’t be “free” to go else where. The funny part was the ones who wanted to get married but weren’t ready to ask and beat around the bush until it was nothing but splinters.

Divorce is not something I want on my record because I truly believe marriage is forever. I am also honest with myself and I know the part I played and I was not ready to be a wife. I didn’t know how how to be one. I have been studying out the Virtuous Woman in Proverbs and my goal is to emulate that example so I can provide the best for my husband, whoever God chooses for me. I think the goal should be that you would want to marry the person that is for you. Not just have a desire to be married. I want that for me but I can’t settle nor can I ask for something I can’t up hold either.

I desire to be a Mrs. but a Ms. suits me just fine I open myself up for meeting that one.

Nicole A. Jefferson

Nicole,

You are absolutely right and you raise some great points about waiting to marry the right person.  I will certainly keep that in mind as we are having our book discussions and talks around the country. 

Thank you for sharing your experiences and reminding me to continue to approach this issue from various perspectives.  Hope you like the book and I pray that it confirms that you are making the right choice to your heart open to love.

All the best,

Kea


From Past “Guest Professor” Ediomi Utuk (Founder of Converse 4 A Cure)

1-As a child of Nigerian immigrants, I have witnessed the power of a strong and solid marriage. I grew up watching TV and was surrounded by most of the same societal influences as the majority of my peers. Now that I am older (24) many of my peers either have children, have been in numerous break-ups and suffer from low self-esteem. The difference between them and I is that they come from broken homes. What do you think about this issue and what are thoughts on a remedy?


2. SANKOFA: return to your past and take what is rightfully yours. At times I feel like this gem has become like a crystal ball; one sees it and can touch it but does not know how to activate it. Do you think this gem has become a pastime in our culture or is it still a principal to be practiced in life?

“Dr”. Utuk,

Thank you for your insight and I think broken homes are the root of a lot of issues in our community, but because we cannot always draw a direct link, we do not always make the connection.  Respect for your husband/wife, is something very difficult to teach.  It is much better learned/absorbed by witnessing/observing and experiencing it…which was one of my reasons for creating the book…to show those young people that may not have a couple to model themselves after what a respectful healthy relationship looks like.


Once you see how to respect someone in your home, you know how to respect everyone else in your community.


As for Sankofa, you profoundly wrote… “one sees it and can touch it but does not know how to activate it.”  And how right you are.  Unfortunately, everyone does not see it (even those who have seen it need to be reminded every now and then).  Everyone cannot touch it…and even fewer know how to activate it.  The photos in this book allow people to at least see it…God willing, they can touch it…the words in the book (if they read closely) will tell them how to activate it.  I have carefully, purposely and prayerfully selected of images, of couples and of words on each page the book.  Let us pray that it will be that crystal ball for many.

In love,
Kea


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