Instructor: Professor Jai
February 26, 2009
This particular topic was a little difficult for me to write for two reasons. The first, I didn't want to repeat the same things you've heard before and second, although we know bringing each other down is wrong, there is a slight possibility we may slip and do it again.
So instead I have a couple of questions I want you to ask yourself
1) Why am I using my energy to hate on this woman?
2) What is she doing that's making me hate on her?
Before you answer these questions, I want you to read Maya Angelou's definition of a hater:
"A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall. They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever good enough!"
In my past lecture, I discussed checking yourself and admitting your faults. So when you see a woman and you're about to put on that mean face to fix your mouth to say something negative, I want you to STOP. Before you say "What's up with her" I want you to say "What's up with me?" That woman you're about to hate on could be YOU.
I'd like to end my lecture with something one of my Spiritual sisters sent me and I keep it close to my heart. Women are carriers of life, not the channels of death. Let's build and encourage each other as did Ruth and Naomi. Who are we to judge each other? They judge Mary Magdalene and by the time Jesus was done with her, she was his closest follower.
Women, putting each other down will not make you feel better about yourself.
Be Well!!
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Instructor: Professor L. Middleton
February 25, 2009
Hello all and welcome to “Take care of your kids, she didn’t do it alone” class. I hope you find this lecture very fulfilling and knowledgeable.
We began today by talking about why it’s pertinent to be responsible fathers to our children. As an African - American male who was raised by a single mother in The Bronx, New York, I can attest to the invaluable life lessons that my brothers and sisters missed out on growing up without a positive father figure in our lives. Perhaps we would have developed a balance of a two parent household which could have enhanced our present parenting skills. My mother did her share through thick and thin and we are forever blessed for that, but where was our father? The person that my sisters should have been jumping into his arms, the person that should have been there talk to and teach my sisters the importance of protecting their hearts and souls from some of those males who prey on young hearts that they would encounter in their early lives. Where was that male figure to take his sons to the ball park, take his sons to Central Park or better yet teach us how to be sensitive and respectful to our female partners in our early years?
TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS, SHE DIDNT DO IT ALL ALONE!!!!!!
Brothers, I think it’s only right that we try our best to overcome the “baby-momma drama” and step up and be role models for our children. I know how it can be tough dealing with some women who seem to want nothing but the worse for you in your life once things don’t work out. Brothers, we are hurting our future by not being there and overcoming the mess. Let’s began to become more aware of ourselves as positive men. NO ONE IS PERFECT, but let’s work on helping our children more by getting back into their lives!
“Take care of your kids, she didn’t do it alone.”
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