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Recognizing Your Faults 101

“Hello all and Welcome to Recognizing your faults 101. I hope you find this lecture veryfulfilling and knowledgeable. We begin today by talking about “Checking Self”.


Have you ever wondered why a specific thing always happens to you? Or why you may attract that same type of person all the time? You’ve chatted with your friends or family to try to make sense of it. Maybe you even prayed on it and asked God for an answer. You’ve probably heard a little and maybe ignored signs because you didn’t want to hear it. And this voice tells you, “maybe it’s me”. Well it might just be YOU. Admitting is the first step to checking yourself.


Don’t get me wrong, I’m not implying that you are the blame for everything that happens. If you see a pattern of the same thing happening too many times, it’s time to step back and take another look. Admitting your flaws can be a little difficult and maybe emotional and coming to terms about your flaws can be a bit much. After you admit it, then you Identify. This step should be done by yourself, although you may want to ask people for their input. Who knows you better than yourself? If you prefer you can make a list, an honest no hold bars list. After you make that list, throw it away; memorize the list. Throughout life you can’t always go back to that list to remind yourself what you need to do. Identifying will take you a moment. As I mentioned before it’s not easy, you may learn something about yourself you have been denying for a long time. After you identify, Accept. Remember, a perfect person doesn’t exist and everyone has their flaws. Accepting is telling yourself, “enough of the nonsense, I need to make me a better me”. This step shouldn’t bring you down. Its the opposite, it’s taking you higher.


Checking Yourself is an on-going task. The more you make a conscious effort, the more consistent you will be. And yes, this should be used for all aspects in your life. It’s all about taking a moment before you act. Will your flaws go away? Honestly some will and some won’t but the difference is you’re making an effort for them to cease and your finer qualities to shine.


Are there any questions or comments? Please raise your hand.

Posted by Professor Jai on 01/04 at 04:00 PM in

 





Comments

 

#1. Posted by Marla on July 20, 2009

Many of my associates as well as friends have come to me time and time again complaining that they have been dealt a bad hand in life but I too have always wondered if they ever actually sat down and look to see what they were doing wrong as oppose to blaming everyone else. My all-time favorite is “the blame game and what is wrong with me because my husband, boyfriend, or girlfriend is cheating on me?” I always tell my friends if he cheated on you don’t ask me what’s wrong with you ask him why did he feel the need to step out of the relationship. Not to mention that I also ask them if they are so miserable dealing with this person and this person continues to cheat on them or have no respect for them or the relationship then the one thing I see wrong is that they are acccepting these things in their lives.

I strongly believe that we do not choose who we meet in our lives but we definitely choose who stays in our lives.

 

#2. Posted by Prof. Jai on July 20, 2009

Hello Marla, thank you for your comment. I strongly agree with your statement “we do not choose who we meet in our lives but we definitely choose who stays in our lives”.

That’s why I feel so strongly about checking yourself. The example you used about being cheated on, in that case the person who is doing the cheating is wrong. It’s up to the person who is being cheated on to step back and say to themselves, why am I still dealing with this mess, I deserve better in other words check yourself and stop dealing with that nonsense. Checking yourself is so much deeper than saying “I’m wrong because I’m doing this” or “Why does bad things happen to me”, it’s about discovering what a person needs to do to get all they deserve.

Marla, thanks again for your comment. Be Well!!

 

#3. Posted by Ursula on July 20, 2009

Thanks Professor Jai for your honest and frank view on checking one’s self. I think in this day and time that we are in ... too many people don’t like to take a “Good Look at Themselves”. I believe with each year past ... you should defintely reanalyze what was good about the prior year and what was bad. This is the time to make changes for a better you in the New Year!

 

#4. Posted by Alice on July 20, 2009

Thanks Prof Jai….I agree with everyone’s comments that was posted. Furthermore, I also believe FEAR and SELF ESTEEM is another reason why we won’t recognize our faults. We get the gut feeling that its not right to be with this person, or what you’re doing is not right, but we ignore it. You will have some who are afraid to let the man/woman go because this same individual chose to be with them! The other things is being INDEPENDANT….This is probably a subject you will need to discuss soon!! Once an individual see that you depend on them for everything and you can’t make decisions on you’re own, they use that as bait….Do you agree or disagree?

 

#5. Posted by Prof Jai on July 20, 2009

I am glad you mentioned being able to be independent since I have seen many circumstances in which couples stay together because they have become accustomed to their routines.

 

#6. Posted by Prof Jai on July 20, 2009

Happy New Years Ursula!!

And thank you for your, comment. You are absolutely right, it is time for a change, not only for our country but within ourselves. People need to realize, accepting things as they are isn’t acceptable. If things are going well in a person’s life, THAT’S GREAT!! The trick is keeping it up. And if things aren’t going well, then make them well. As long as a person has air in their lungs they can do anything.

If we stay on top of ourselves, no telling what we can accomplish.

Urusla, thanks for sharing. Be Well!!

 

#7. Posted by Munn on July 20, 2009

Bravo Brother. I printed this and have handed it out to a few close friends that need to hear it from someone other than me. Bravo!

 

#8. Posted by Prof Jai on July 20, 2009

Hey Alice, Happy New Year and thanks for sharing.

Alice, you touch on topics that are on-going discussions I have with many many of my friends.

Self-Esteem is a fragile component. There are so many negative forces out there, who’s main goal is to break our self-esteem down. And the sad truth is we allow it. Also, we look for other people and material things to build our self-esteem up. Well, that needs to STOP, NOW!! This is why checking yourself is important. Accepting yourself and all you qualities should be #1 That little voice you mentioned, that’s what I call yout spirit telling you what is good for you. We all need to quiet down and start listening to ourselves.

FEAR… ..this feeling has such a strong hold on what we do or don’t do. And we allow this little word to have too much power over us.The not knowing scares us, the fear of “oh he/she might hurt us like my ex” makes us not open up to that new person, the “I’m afraid it won’t work” stops us from taking chances….I’m sure you’ve heard or even said this before. The only way to overcome fear is to not give into it. I know easier said than done, but who said life is easy. Take those chances, start that new relationship or end that old relationship that’s not worth the stress you’ve been going through. The bottom line, the more you give into fear, the more you lose out on life.

One more thing, I agree on your comment about being INDEPENDANT. To be honest, some people don’t know how. They lived a majority of their life depending on others. The way to be INDEPENDANT is to overcome fear and build up self-esteem for starters

I know I only scratched the surface, but I wanted to mentioned my thoughts on the topics. Alice, you gave some great ideas on next topics and I thank you very much for your insights.

Be Well!!

 

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